So I know I am like a ping pong ball with this blog thing. I always have good intentions but life throws me in different directions. I really do not know if anybody even reads my blog and if they did they are gone now because its been a year since I posted. One reason why I want to blog again is this is a cool way to look back on my life..memories. My kids could also look back at the days and remember their memories even if they were bad ones. I also figured this could help me answer some of the many questions I get from people on a daily basis....HOW DO YOU DO IT ALL? I wonder what your day is like? Why are you always so calm? you and Mark have it together.... I never see you mad..Does that Happen??? Well if I can keep up with this, then you might see my ugly side too....but not that much...for we are an easy going family.
Yes we have 6 kids (for some who did not know #6 was born in April 2013) I work out of the home about 30 hours a week and I work 3-11 and my husband works 6 days week and works 6-3. I am still a Girl Scout Leader and my husband recently became Cubmaster of the local cub Scouts and I am pretty much his right hand man(gal ) and its like having a second job. My one daughter still dances twice a week and my boys do play soccer but just in the Spring. Since my son graduated in June I have a break from the High School Marching Band which at times could have been overwhelming also. I hope this does reach many people and now you can get a first hand look into the Graham Household! Hopefully I remember how to upload pics to this thing!
Til we meet again on here have a blessed day!
Debbie G!
Friday, September 13, 2013
Thursday, August 2, 2012
Chick Fil A and how I feel
I know its been awhile since I blogged and Facebook is to thank for that but also thanks to Facebook I have been under fire by a few who think I am wrong for posting about my opinions/beliefs about Chik-Fil-A. For those of you who are not aware of his remarks I am sure you can google it and see all kind of different versions and such.
So the owner (who is 90) was interviewed by a Christian group and traditional marriage was brought up and he said in these words that he supports traditional marriage and is happy to say he is still married to his first wife. Ok with that being said...what is Traditional marriage? His view is the marriage that is seen by the the Christian faith and that usually consists of being married in the church by a ordained person of Faith. That means that the JP does not count and common law marriage (ya know where the couple live together for soo long and then its automatically legal) also does not count. Alo it does mean that Gays getting married would not count either becasue many religions do not recognize it becasue in the bible there are many verses that point out being Gay is worng. Here is one of the first ones that stick out to me
Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.”
—1 Corinthians 6:9-10 (NKJV)
Ok so most Christians are going with what the bible suggests. I consider myself a Christian and do I believe that....well I guess I do however I question it like many other Christian I am sure....just like we question many other topics i nthe bible and everyday issues. Does that make me a bad person? I would hope not casue just becasue I do not agree 100% with the lifestyle doesnt mean I do not agree 100%..I am torn in between and at times and it is hard to grasp for me. They say hate the sin not the sinner...that helps alot becasue no matter what my friends or family choose for their sexual preference I am a non-judging, love one another Christian. It is their choice and as long as I do not get hurt or they do not push it on me (and I likewise do not push it my belief on them) ot should not matter.
Now onto the whole "lets Boycott Chick Fil A" becasue they do not support gay marriage...oh this could be awhile for me to ramble on....
First off he said "Traditional Marriage" not Gay Marriage and I showed examples on that. He also mention married to his first wife still. (Man where was all the divorced folks at...if they would have boycotted that chain could have been trouble becasue that number is much higher) In now way was he using hate words or anything that would casue harm to anybody else. It was his conviction from his Christian belief. I mean he is 90 and is a baptist who closes his restaurants on Sunday to obey what he believes in and people are now just figuring out he would only be for Traditional marriage??? That boggles my mind right there! And with his age, I know of a few gay men and lesbians who have come out but do not have the heart to tell their older grandparents knowing it would break their heart becasue many people in the older generation are still strong with their biblical convictions.
I was enlightened by a gay male telling me he does not believe in Gay marriage either..just a Civil union between two same sex humans that is recognized by the Government. Marriage is a biblical term and it is the union between a male and female recognzied by the biblical standards and him being raised Catholic knows that being Gay was a sin in the bible so therefore he will stick with the civil union. made alot more sense to me :)
So to the boycott....everyone who supports gay marriage gets in an uproar over one guys opinion....his opinion...not the whole restaurant chain/employees opinion. We already aid this should have been no schock and he was not doing any harm. But the people didnt care..they wanted to crucify him and make his business go under...politicians wanted to ban the chain from their community and stop more from comming. Now everybody is entitled to their opinions and can stand up for what they believe in. I get that...however I still do not understand how this was going to prove a thing?
For one, the owners are around 90 and I am sure they have enough money to make it through. So now lets boycott the business and who is it going to hurt if the business would go low enough to shut down the restaurant? The innocent employees, who more than likely do not care or do not believe the same as the owner...they are trying to earn a paycheck in an economy that is not that hot right now! There is even a gay mangaer at one of the CFA on the East coast who migh be saving up money to pay for a civil union for him and his partner for all we know. So we will punish them...that will show them..Right? Wrong! Sometimes I just do not understand how people think?
Now on to me and why I went to Chik Fil A on August 1st. Well the main reason is to teach my kids that we are to respect everybodys beliefs even if it does not match ours. My kids are very familiar with gays and most of all the issues that come with it to the church teachings and the way supporters think and knowing how the gay community feel. I am open with that to them..I will not shield them completly like some do but on the flip side I do not understand or like the ideal of making out in front of the restaurants...my kids will be shielded from that and even if it was male/female the still would be. That is not an adult/mature way to handle this. I also am letting my kids see how unfair it is to have one-sided beliefs. Gay supporters are right and non gay supporters are wrong. It does not work that way....in my family at least it doesnt. Dont get me wrong I have talked to gays who are fine with CFA and what is going on and they will still eat there (in some of their words the chicken is that darn good) That is how it should be....drop it and move on...and that is how I feel now....
I just do want to point out before I sign off that if you compare all the fast food chains I think CFA does the most for the indivudal community. Lokk at the fundraisers they have, the family game nights and so much more. 9/10 times at a community/school or some other even you always see that cow there...I hardly ever see any of hte other mascots at al lthe events. To me that is a business that cares....and they have been known to gove to charities that support gays and organizations that do to.
Blessings
Debbie
So the owner (who is 90) was interviewed by a Christian group and traditional marriage was brought up and he said in these words that he supports traditional marriage and is happy to say he is still married to his first wife. Ok with that being said...what is Traditional marriage? His view is the marriage that is seen by the the Christian faith and that usually consists of being married in the church by a ordained person of Faith. That means that the JP does not count and common law marriage (ya know where the couple live together for soo long and then its automatically legal) also does not count. Alo it does mean that Gays getting married would not count either becasue many religions do not recognize it becasue in the bible there are many verses that point out being Gay is worng. Here is one of the first ones that stick out to me
Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.”
—1 Corinthians 6:9-10 (NKJV)
Ok so most Christians are going with what the bible suggests. I consider myself a Christian and do I believe that....well I guess I do however I question it like many other Christian I am sure....just like we question many other topics i nthe bible and everyday issues. Does that make me a bad person? I would hope not casue just becasue I do not agree 100% with the lifestyle doesnt mean I do not agree 100%..I am torn in between and at times and it is hard to grasp for me. They say hate the sin not the sinner...that helps alot becasue no matter what my friends or family choose for their sexual preference I am a non-judging, love one another Christian. It is their choice and as long as I do not get hurt or they do not push it on me (and I likewise do not push it my belief on them) ot should not matter.
Now onto the whole "lets Boycott Chick Fil A" becasue they do not support gay marriage...oh this could be awhile for me to ramble on....
First off he said "Traditional Marriage" not Gay Marriage and I showed examples on that. He also mention married to his first wife still. (Man where was all the divorced folks at...if they would have boycotted that chain could have been trouble becasue that number is much higher) In now way was he using hate words or anything that would casue harm to anybody else. It was his conviction from his Christian belief. I mean he is 90 and is a baptist who closes his restaurants on Sunday to obey what he believes in and people are now just figuring out he would only be for Traditional marriage??? That boggles my mind right there! And with his age, I know of a few gay men and lesbians who have come out but do not have the heart to tell their older grandparents knowing it would break their heart becasue many people in the older generation are still strong with their biblical convictions.
I was enlightened by a gay male telling me he does not believe in Gay marriage either..just a Civil union between two same sex humans that is recognized by the Government. Marriage is a biblical term and it is the union between a male and female recognzied by the biblical standards and him being raised Catholic knows that being Gay was a sin in the bible so therefore he will stick with the civil union. made alot more sense to me :)
So to the boycott....everyone who supports gay marriage gets in an uproar over one guys opinion....his opinion...not the whole restaurant chain/employees opinion. We already aid this should have been no schock and he was not doing any harm. But the people didnt care..they wanted to crucify him and make his business go under...politicians wanted to ban the chain from their community and stop more from comming. Now everybody is entitled to their opinions and can stand up for what they believe in. I get that...however I still do not understand how this was going to prove a thing?
For one, the owners are around 90 and I am sure they have enough money to make it through. So now lets boycott the business and who is it going to hurt if the business would go low enough to shut down the restaurant? The innocent employees, who more than likely do not care or do not believe the same as the owner...they are trying to earn a paycheck in an economy that is not that hot right now! There is even a gay mangaer at one of the CFA on the East coast who migh be saving up money to pay for a civil union for him and his partner for all we know. So we will punish them...that will show them..Right? Wrong! Sometimes I just do not understand how people think?
Now on to me and why I went to Chik Fil A on August 1st. Well the main reason is to teach my kids that we are to respect everybodys beliefs even if it does not match ours. My kids are very familiar with gays and most of all the issues that come with it to the church teachings and the way supporters think and knowing how the gay community feel. I am open with that to them..I will not shield them completly like some do but on the flip side I do not understand or like the ideal of making out in front of the restaurants...my kids will be shielded from that and even if it was male/female the still would be. That is not an adult/mature way to handle this. I also am letting my kids see how unfair it is to have one-sided beliefs. Gay supporters are right and non gay supporters are wrong. It does not work that way....in my family at least it doesnt. Dont get me wrong I have talked to gays who are fine with CFA and what is going on and they will still eat there (in some of their words the chicken is that darn good) That is how it should be....drop it and move on...and that is how I feel now....
I just do want to point out before I sign off that if you compare all the fast food chains I think CFA does the most for the indivudal community. Lokk at the fundraisers they have, the family game nights and so much more. 9/10 times at a community/school or some other even you always see that cow there...I hardly ever see any of hte other mascots at al lthe events. To me that is a business that cares....and they have been known to gove to charities that support gays and organizations that do to.
Blessings
Debbie
Saturday, December 24, 2011
Merry Christmas
So here it is another Christmas in the Graham house! It does seem to get a little easier every year but harder in other ways. Few weeks ago I was worried that Christmas was not going to be that special for the kids this year cause financially we just didn't know how we would do it. With a little praying and having faith that the big guy upstairs will provide he did just that. I will not say who but someone gave us some extra cash for the Holidays for all we do. I was able to finish all my shopping with that and have some extra to pay bills early!
I did manage to get sick with the flu on Thursday and first thing was I have so much to do and now I am doomed. I was in bed from 3:00 pm Thursday til 11:00 am Friday morning and then started feeling a little better. I decided to keep my 11 year old home so she can help and she did. She finished the wrapping and did some baking....still have to work on her cleaning skills though.
Today I am trying to prepare for the company we will have on Christmas day. My husband gave me a head start by cleaning the whole living room while I was at work. I am truly blessed to have a family that will all pitch in and help get things done!
So off I go to get my kids ready to head to my sisters for Christmas Eve and then off to Church for the 11:00 service!
Merry Christmas to Everyone!
I did manage to get sick with the flu on Thursday and first thing was I have so much to do and now I am doomed. I was in bed from 3:00 pm Thursday til 11:00 am Friday morning and then started feeling a little better. I decided to keep my 11 year old home so she can help and she did. She finished the wrapping and did some baking....still have to work on her cleaning skills though.
Today I am trying to prepare for the company we will have on Christmas day. My husband gave me a head start by cleaning the whole living room while I was at work. I am truly blessed to have a family that will all pitch in and help get things done!
So off I go to get my kids ready to head to my sisters for Christmas Eve and then off to Church for the 11:00 service!
Merry Christmas to Everyone!
Wednesday, December 21, 2011
a little update
what have I been doing in the past 10 months since I blogged? Well I will tell you. I celebrated my 10 year anniversary this past July...10 years so hard to believe. We didn't do anything fancy...I thing just went to dinner and that was good enough for me. I am still a Girl Scout leader and my troop now consists of Brownies and Juniors. Its a challenge but hey its worth it in the end when the girls are happy. Well since my 4 oldest are in scouts of course my youngest had to become a Scout and Mark decided to become the leader. I help him with his troop so every Thursday is Scout night in the Graham house (along with every Monday and every other Sun and Tues) Me and Mark are still working at the good ol Shop N Save. We work opposite shifts and we manage to make it work.
The kids.....well Kevin is now in 11th grade...hard to believe. He is still active in Boy Scouts, High School Band, ROTC and Youth Crime Watch to name a few. He worked this past summer as a lifeguard at the local pool. Brittney started middle school and is still trying to adjust. Sometimes I am fine with that but sometimes it scares me. She is still in Girls Scouts and playing the trombone and viola. She also played Softball and hoping she plays again in the Spring. Alyssa is now in the 4th grade and lets just say she has come out of her shell. She now plays the clarinet and violin and still in Girl Scouts. Brandon is in 2nd grade and is just my all around personality kid. He is in his 2nd year of Cub Scouts and played soccer in the in the Spring. Leaves me with Ryan...my little adult kid. He is in the 1st grade and adjusting well. Still in the Autistic support program but doing well enough to stay in a normal classroom setting. He is actually my first kid to bring straight A's on his report cards from school. He joined Cub Scouts this year and he has his ups and downs with that.
Have a Positive Day!
The kids.....well Kevin is now in 11th grade...hard to believe. He is still active in Boy Scouts, High School Band, ROTC and Youth Crime Watch to name a few. He worked this past summer as a lifeguard at the local pool. Brittney started middle school and is still trying to adjust. Sometimes I am fine with that but sometimes it scares me. She is still in Girls Scouts and playing the trombone and viola. She also played Softball and hoping she plays again in the Spring. Alyssa is now in the 4th grade and lets just say she has come out of her shell. She now plays the clarinet and violin and still in Girl Scouts. Brandon is in 2nd grade and is just my all around personality kid. He is in his 2nd year of Cub Scouts and played soccer in the in the Spring. Leaves me with Ryan...my little adult kid. He is in the 1st grade and adjusting well. Still in the Autistic support program but doing well enough to stay in a normal classroom setting. He is actually my first kid to bring straight A's on his report cards from school. He joined Cub Scouts this year and he has his ups and downs with that.
Have a Positive Day!
Sunday, December 18, 2011
need to update this thing.
Yikes the pics of my kids are over 2 years old. I really need to update that. I think a little makeover will be in the works! After Christmas though. This is going to be one busy week ahead. Of course I work 3-11 pretty much all week and I still have to wrap, bake and clean. We are having Christmas here and I am no where ready for that yet. I know between my husband and the kids they will as they say "bail me out"!
I did have an awesome day today with my husband and kids. We were both off from work which is unusual so we all headed to church (the first time in a long time because of one vehicle) The had the annual Christmas Cantata and I always enjoy listening to the choir sing the story of what Christmas is all about. I made tacos for dinner, which is one of the meals that all 7 of us will eat. It does end up costing more than I want but its a good feeling to see the family eating together with no issues(whining usually) After dinner me and Mark watched Tim Hawkins on Youtube for about an hour. What a funny guy he is. Then it was time to powerclean the house. I love days like this!
Blessings
Debbie!
I did have an awesome day today with my husband and kids. We were both off from work which is unusual so we all headed to church (the first time in a long time because of one vehicle) The had the annual Christmas Cantata and I always enjoy listening to the choir sing the story of what Christmas is all about. I made tacos for dinner, which is one of the meals that all 7 of us will eat. It does end up costing more than I want but its a good feeling to see the family eating together with no issues(whining usually) After dinner me and Mark watched Tim Hawkins on Youtube for about an hour. What a funny guy he is. Then it was time to powerclean the house. I love days like this!
Blessings
Debbie!
Saturday, December 17, 2011
I am back!
So its been almost a year since I last posted or even looked at my blog or anybody Else's. Many reasons kept me away from blogging from lost password to still don't understand the updated ways of blogging to little to no time and I guess Facebook got into the way too! I really miss blogging. I miss even more reading other blogs.
My goal for 2012 is going to be to blog way more often. I would say my goal would be daily but I doubt that. I really want to blog so I can look back at all these memories I will have of my kids during their childhood. I want them and their families to come back to read about the good times the bad times the scary times and the blessed times! I might be the only one for now reading this blog but that's OK!
Till I blog again......Have a blessed day!
Debbie
My goal for 2012 is going to be to blog way more often. I would say my goal would be daily but I doubt that. I really want to blog so I can look back at all these memories I will have of my kids during their childhood. I want them and their families to come back to read about the good times the bad times the scary times and the blessed times! I might be the only one for now reading this blog but that's OK!
Till I blog again......Have a blessed day!
Debbie
Sunday, May 1, 2011
At the end of February we celebrated my oldest son Kevin for receiving his Eagle Scout Award! Not too many Boy Scouts achieve this award let alone at the age he was when he completed his.(15) It takes alot of hard work and dedication!
It was nice to see all the kind things many people at to say about him! As his mother I am very proud of him and I know he well deserves it!
Just know this Kevin...your little brothers look up to you and they want to follow you in the Boy Scout journey!
It was nice to see all the kind things many people at to say about him! As his mother I am very proud of him and I know he well deserves it!
Just know this Kevin...your little brothers look up to you and they want to follow you in the Boy Scout journey!
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